Domestic violence

Domestic violence is any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are (or have been) intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality.​

This can include, but is not limited to, the following types of abuse:

  • psychological
  • physical
  • sexual
  • financial
  • emotional

Controlling behaviour

A range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour.

Coercive behaviour

An act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.

This definition also includes so called 'honour' based violence, female genital mutilation (FGM) and forced marriage, and victims are not confined to one gender or ethnic group.

Report domestic violence

If you are suffering from or are aware of Domestic abuse call the police on 111 but if you believe they are in immediate danger call 999.

You can also tell:

Adult social care

Children's social care

If you are making a referral as a professional please complete our MARAC form at the bottom of this page.

Who you can turn to

Havering Women's Aid are an organisation based in Havering that can offer support in regards to domestic violence. They offer floating support, group support and 1-2-1 counselling is also available on 01708 728759.

MENDAS are an organisation based in Havering that can offer support in regards to male victims Domestic Violence. They offer floating support and 1-2-1 counselling is also available on 01708

If you are in need of emergency refuge please call the National Domestic Violence helpline; 0808 2000247

If you are a victim of sexual violence contact the East London Rape Crisis Centre for free confidential advice and support on 020 7683 1210. Also visit the Rape Crisis website for help.

LGBT victims of domestic violence can contact GALOP domestic abuse project for specialist support on 020 7704 2040.

Deaf victims of domestic violence can receive advocacy and outreach support from Deaf Hope by telephoning 020 8772 3241 or email

If you want to stop being violent and abusive to your partner contact Respect on 0808 802 4040.

Women in Prison offers advice and support to women affected by the criminal justice system. Contact 0800 953 0125 for assistance.

South Asian, Turkish, Iranian women experiencing domestic violence can contact Ashiana on 020 8539 0427 for support and advice.

Victim Support can offer victims of crime advice and support, help with legal remedies, assistance with housing, and benefits advice. Contact 020 8550 2410.

You can find local support to suit your circumstances through the Domestic Abuse Champions Network.

London Violence Against Women and Girls (VAWG)

The London Violence Against Women and Girls (VAWG) Consortium is made up of 29 organisations working in partnership to deliver comprehensive, cost effective, high quality services to all communities across London. This innovative partnership strengthens referral pathways across organisations and identifies trends and emerging need

Professional referrals

If you are a professional looking to make a referral for high risk domestic abuse please complete our Multi Agency Risk Assessment Conference (MARAC) referral form.

This will be screened by the MARAC co-ordinator to ensure the referral meets the threshold criteria.

MARAC Referral Form

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